Procedure -- After the groom's family has spotted a young girl whom the groom wants to marry, the family will hire a spokeswoman who will communicate their wish to the potential bride's family. (In the old days, it is popular to hire elderly ladies as midwives or spokeswoman for the groom.) This lady will persuade the potential bride's family to accept the offer from the groom's family. Both sides will negotiate certain terms. If successful, both families will proceed to the next step.

In the old days, all communications were through formal letters. Therefore, the letters will play an important role in the events.

Request Letter

This letter confirms the formal arrangement of a marriage. It is sent by the groom's family to the bride's family. This letter is normally presented with the initial gifts for the bride's family.

Gift Letter

This letter accompanies the formal gifts for the Bride's family. It is actually a gift list that records the description and quantity of the gifts. The letter include an agreement that the groom will send some nice gifts such as dried seafood and fruit basket to the bride's family.

Wedding Letter

This letter is presented to the bride's family on the day of the wedding. It confirms the act of bringing the bride into the groom's family. As for the 'monetary gift', the groom will either pay a certain agreed amount to the bride's family or will offer to pay for all of the wedding cost.